Dear Hopeful Mama,
I see you scrolling through Instagram seeing family photo after family photo this holiday season. Feeling that twinge of envy with every Bump Picture, wishing you had one to match. The painful little exhale when you realize that Bump will be an adorably chubby baby this time next year. I see you double tapping the photos of bright-eyed toddlers in front of their Christmas trees, loving them and who they belong to, but longing for a photo just like it. One where the precious little one in the picture has your eyes, your husband’s smile. I see you swallowing the sadness every time you see another pregnancy announcement, wondering if you will ever get to use any of the dozens of ideas you’ve come up with for your own. I see you smirking at another photo of a kiddo sobbing on Santa’s lap, imagining what your child might do when meeting Old Saint Nick one day. Hoping you get to find out.
I see you.
I wanted you to know that you are allowed to be sad. I wanted to say that there is nothing wrong with you feeling your feelings. I wanted to tell you that you are not alone.
The holiday season can be especially hard. It’s that time of year when families come together, and if you are feeling like your family is not complete… well, it makes the happiest time of year a little less happy. Trying to put on a brave face and make merry doesn’t work for everyone. Just do what you can, Hopeful Mama. Take it day by day and tradition by tradition.
I wanted to send you some love this Christmas and tell you that you are thought of, cared about, and prayed over. My wish for you is that you will be able to experience and enjoy all this season has to offer. That you will remember that you are here and you are important – right now. Not just when your dreams of Mommyhood come true. This is still your life, your precious life. Each day I have to remind myself to be present, to live it. I don’t want to look back in a few years and wonder where this time went, where I went. You with me? I hope you can take a refreshing breath of cool winter air, that you treat yo’self this Christmas, and that you are able to find a slice or two of holiday happiness. You deserve all good things, my friend, my soul sister.
I am praying for your heart. That you will remember you are not alone, Hopeful Mama. That you will find peace and comfort during the hard times. That you will know when to slow your scroll. 😂😉 That you will be able to find gratitude and joy in the present. And most of all… I pray that 2018 is your year. That soon it will be you sharing your wonderful news and spamming the social media world with your perfect offspring. That soon it will be you seeing the magic of Christmas through the eyes of your hoped for, prayed for, desperately wanted, and highly anticipated child. I know they are so loved already. And so are you, Hopeful Mama.
Wishing you the Merriest Christmas and the Most Joyful New Year!
All my love,
Joanna (Another Hopeful Mama)
P.S. Hopeful Dads, I don’t mean to leave you out. This is for you too. ❤️